Stars are bright... and something bright can outshine darkness.. so when you see darkness, turn around and look at me.... I'll be there and is willing to brighten up your day... THAT's what a STAR is made of...
What do couples who describe their relationship as spectacular do differently than those who describe theirs as simply so-so? The differences are quite small, actually.
#1. Understand Each Other's Needs
"The main reason marriages break up is not conflict, communication problems, or physical incompatibility," Orbuch says. "It's frustration -- the day-to-day disappointment of the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts -- that is most damaging." To diffuse that frustration, share your expectations with each other. Maybe you desire more affection and he craves more relaxed couple time. "And be sure to check in with your partner once a year, as added pressures or life changes can create new expectations," Orbuch says.
#2. Show Him Some Love
Men whose partners give them affirmation -- those words and gestures that show they are appreciated, respected, and loved -- are twice as likely to describe themselves as happy in their relationship. And men may need affirmation more than women, Orbuch's research showed. "Women are constantly receiving flattery from friends and even strangers who say, 'Love your outfit!'" she says. "But men don't get that recognition." Can you imagine a passerby stopping your guy to compliment him on how well his tie matches his shirt? Not gonna happen -- which is why men rely on that attention from their mates. Luckily, there's another payoff to your flattery: He's more likely to return those loving deeds back to you.
#3. Take 10
A weekly date night is always recommended as a way to reconnect, but sometimes all you need is a few minutes. "I call this the 10-Minute Rule: Take 10 minutes a day to talk about anything, except for responsibilities or chores," Orbuch says. Throw out Mom's old advice about how an air of mystery keeps the flame alive: Orbuch's research showed that 98 percent of happy couples say they intimately understand their partners. And knowing your partner intimately isn't always about engaging in heavy conversations: Anything that helps you learn something new will bring you closer, Orbuch says. You can bond over why you think your dog is the smartest one on the block or which superpower you'd want most. You'll get to know each other's inner world and strengthen your bond of happiness.
#4. Focus on the Good
The best way to make your relationship better is to work at fixing what's wrong, right? Nope. "The most effective way to boost fun and passion is to add positive elements to your marriage," Orbuch says. "That positive energy makes us feel good and motivates us to keep going in that direction." This doesn't mean that you can't feel -- or talk about -- anything negative, but "pretend you are weighing your interactions on a scale," she says. "If you want a happier relationship, the positive side needs to far outweigh the bad." The more you honor the love and joy in your bond, the sooner you'll transform your partnership into one that is truly great.
Reprinted with permission of Hearst Communications, Inc.
So another random post from the STAR OF STARS!!!
The Star of Stars...
Here again to show some love to his little stars...
Wishing all the best to everyone reading this...
Got this from the internet...
It may help...
So...
I'll be praying for the best for each and everyone of you...
(The title has nothing to do with anybody… So don’t get me wrong…)
So as I had promised you little stars… On my previous post, I had promised to talk about the fun Friday I had… I actually enjoyed one day in my whole one week holidays… So I’ll start my story from the moment I woke up la… hehehe…( I won’t include the part where I go wash up myself and all la.. don’t worry…)
So… After my breakfast with my family, done a few stuffs for my dad... Then off I went to KLCC to hangout with my friends… This time not with my usual friends… This time was with people from UTP… So reached there around 12.30… meet up with those three lovely ladies in front of the cinema… then went separate ways again coz they had to go for their prayers… huhuhu Oh ya… about the post title… Doomsday refers to the movie I watched la…. 2012… Got “wonderful” seats coz the sittings have “SOOOOOO MUCH SPACE” to put my legs… huhuhu… really “HAPPY” cause “SOOOOO COMFORTABLE”… But the movie is A-grade la… cool graphics
As usual… two and a half hours without food definitely will make me feel hungry… So off we went to the food court… MAKAN!!!! chit-chat for a while… talked about the assignments we have to do but one of the ladies made a blur face saying that she knows nothing… huhuhu… then that’s the end of it…
Later on… walked for a short while… everybody was looking at me already… me walking with three lovely ladies… definitely they were thinking something else already… The Star of Stars is not what you think he is… but the sad part was… one of them had to leave already and so left me with another two more… The even SADDER PART was… I kene halau by one of them coz they wanted to go shopping… huhuhu…. Haihzz… ~So sad… So sad… It’s a sad sad situation…~
Hehehe… no la… the last part was just exaggerating only… hehehe… nothing actually… Till next time…
One week of holidays had just passed. The Star is back at his own room here in Universiti Teknologi Petronas… A place where he can’t really shine that much due to much more competitions… haihzz… sad case right??
Okay… Here’s a short little story about what I did for the pass one week…
13/11/2009 (Friday) I was at home after the journey from the Elephant Stone station. Called up my football mates for Saturday football… wuhuuuuu~~~~ The only thing I could remember doing is that I started playing Farmville on Facebook… hahaha… a lot of people asked me to join them play since a long time ago… and finally.. FINALLY THE STAR had started… hehehe…
14/11/2009 (Saturday) Woke up early in the morning… haha… FOOTBALL… yes.. I play football before I entered my previous school (ASiS)… and after entering UTP… don’t really have the chance to kick some balls… It was a hell of a day… really happy to finally play the game I like… hahaha…
15/11/2009 (Sunday) ~NOTHING HAPPENED~
16/11/2009 (Monday) ~NOTHING HAPPENED~
17/11/2009 (Tuesday) ~NOTHING HAPPENED~ But at night got la… hehehe… went out to lepak lepak with my closest friends…
18/11/2009 (Wednesday) Then at night… Haihzz… The gossips… I got training lesson to learn how to gossip… ahahaha…. it was fun gossiping… Now I understand why girls like it so much…. heheheheh…
19/11/2009 (Thursday) ~NOTHING HAPPENED~ The same thing happened that night… GOSSIPS!!!!! Two of my best listeners trained me well… hahaha…. Do you want to know who those two people are??
20/11/2009 (Friday) That night… No more gossiping la… huhuhu… but went out with a few friends.. lepak in the Cyber Café… played games… then got back at 1 in the morning…
21/11/2009 (Saturday)
SATURDAY MORNING IS FOOTBALL MORNING!!!! Got to play football again.. but this time was really tiring… Legs cramping, Bodies aching, Eyes soaring, Lungs gasping for air… hhuhuhu… really was tired… -After football… afternoon… went out with my footiemates at TS..(Not thinking skill… Its Times Square) -At night… WATCHED HOW WOLVES lost to chelsea… Don’t want to capslock chelsea because they are just a pain in the eyes… hehehhe….
22/11/2009 (Sunday)
~~NOTHING HAPPENED~ hehehe… bored la… in the end I’m here writing the whole holiday experience… okay la…that’s all hahah =P…
I am here... not in a good mood... and this time it's not because of friends or anything..
It's just me...
I'm 18 going 19 in another 3 months..
Having thoughts of cutting myself with a blade doesn't seem right..
C'mon.. I'm still studying but the thoughts of not living is kinda funny..
And.. Don't come asking me what's wrong with me..
I won't even bother answering you..
If I feel like telling you.. you are definitely someone I really can trust..
But to tell you all the truth.. Not many made it into the list..
I really like talking and also listening..
I had been listening to a lot of people..
Problems.. Issues.. Sad stories.. Happy stories.. this and that, this and that..
It's like what we say.. a boost to stay alive happily now..
Learn from your own mistakes..
Not leaving out what we can learn from the others also..
Was happy that I was able to share some of my stuffs with someone..
Lifted up some of my stress but not all of it..
Why can't the pain just be gone..
A star should always be shining brightly..
But..
This time is very much different..
This Star of Stars is losing his touch already...
From always a happy go lucky guy..
Now..
It's like What's the point of being here at this very moment..
I know I still have my family by my side every time..
I know I still have a lousy brother at home..
That I could sometimes release my stress on him..
I know I still have great friends..
Friends who I can trust..
Friends who I can talk to..
Friends who I can enjoy myself..
But all of this are just hopes that I hope for at this very moment..
6/11/2009
Okay okay..
Besides cutting myself with a blade..
Maybe I'll consider jumping off a building..
Considering that my university has lots of tall buildings..
While in the air...
I'll try screaming my lungs out...
Expressing myself through the most barbaric way..
Anyone care to join me??
If you don't want to join me also I don't mind..
Just come by and see me jump..
That would be a moment of a life time for you to see someone jumping off a building..
So anyone up for it??
I'm inviting all of you...
I may even sign autographs for you..
Wei.. The Star is falling off a building..
I know you wouldn't want to miss anything.. would you???
9/11/2009
Anyways..
This post is a post where I just type about what comes into my mind..
Honestly all these things I wrote and will be writing..
Are not done in one day..
I’ve been with this thing for the past few weeks..
WEEKS???
Yup.. Sometimes only 2 lines a day..
Just to voice out what was on my mind at that particular moment..
And now I’m here continuing….
After the whole long thing about trust…
Suddenly I have all sorts of thought…
I have a whole lot of friends…
Friends I love…
Friends I hate…
Friends I admire…
Friends I envy…
Friends I judged…
Friends I missed…
Friends I study with…
Friends I play with…
Friends I gossip with…
Friends I disturbed…
Friends I can never forget…
Friends I look for when I’m in trouble…
Friends I talk to…
Friends I fight with…
Friends I cursed… (Please don’t be in here will you???)
Friends I mess with…
Friends I do not know their name but know mine…
Friends I want make friends but they don’t want to…
Friends I think they like me…
Friends I know they hate me…
Friends I cannot TRUST…
Friends I hope that I can TRUST…
Friends I know that I can TRUST…
And I think that’s what I can think of FRIENDS at this moment…
Sometimes they might be irritating…
Sometimes they might be fun…
Sometimes they might be angry..
Sometimes they might be sad..
Sometimes they might be happy…
But one thing’s for sure…
Is that... Sometimes they might hurt you…
BEWARE…
13/11/2009
About my previous posting about trust…
Suddenly I only realized that was I doing the right thing???
Should I have posted that topic???
Was it appropriate??
Was I too harsh on the things I said??
Is it fair for that person??
Does that person have other reasons for his doings??
I might have overlooked…
Overlooked something very important…
Something that is even more important than trust…
The word trust has to fall behind…
It is the word RESPECT…
It was silly of me to not think properly and…
To just let my emotions overcome me…
How silly was that…
I only realized that when my own lecturer was blabbering about respect…
Thank you very much…
Even when I really don’t understand what are you teaching in class all the time…
Sorry to say that… but your class still is okay la….
Actually I’m going to have my Thinking Skill test in another half an hour…
I’m still in my room.. Suddenly thought of the whole thing again..
That’s why I’m here writing this out…
Had my Programming test last night…
Was okay… not really difficult.. BUT just silly mistakes…
HAHAHA….
If you ask me now whether ~ Are you over with all the problems you have??~
I’ll still answer you something that is similar with the feelings that I had on the 1st day… I’m still actually holding the whole feelings now.. but only lesser…
4.21 pm states the time now…
Going to have my test at 5 later…
Later on I will definitely release all the stress I have…
Hahahah…
Lesson of the day…
RESPECT YOURSELF TO RESPECT THE OTHERS SO THAT THEY CAN RESPECT YOU TOO…
18/11/2009
Its Tuesday…
I’m at home actually…
I think I’m gonna post this up right after I’m finished with this…
Like what my good friend Acap Blur always say..
I’m actually sitting here in front of my laptop thinking of my future…
(It means dreaming… not really thinking about the future actually..)
I think I’m slowly forgetting the incident…
I wanna forget about that…
I really don’t want to remember what actually happened…
Initially I thought that I was able to deal with my temper wisely like always…
As usual.... When The Star comes back to KL... Definitely going to play football with his oldmates.... So early in the morning... Footie... This That... kick ball... hold ball... kiss ball... what you can do with the ball.. its all done... Dont get me wrong... its just pure football... Wasnt really happy with the game.. but okay la... Dont mind that much.. coz whatever it was.. Its still a game of football...
I woke up early to play football... My coursemates woke up early to go DOWN TO EARTH... hehehe... DOWN TO EARTH is their project... its not that they are GOINGDOWN TO EARTH.. HAHAHA... nvm... enough said... I'll get back to farming in facebook.. zzz.... Bye~~
Hey everyone.... Just to let you all know... The Star of Stars is back in KL... hahaha... that's all that I want to say... Happy holidays to those who are on holiday... Peace out....
This post is dedicated to everyone reading this post... I don't care who you are... Or what you are... Something that I learned a long time ago... It is a definite strong word... Very strong... Misusing this word may lead to big big unwanted problems... The word 'TRUST'...
This word... A bloody word... A word that could lead to broken friendships... This time I'm not holding back with my words... I know some would say I'm psycho to write it out here... And have no boundaries with it... But do you think that I would give a damn about it... Hahaha... you're right... I DON'T GIVE A DAMN ABOUT IT...
Some people from Maluri would know... He himself would know... Because of the word trust... He had chosen to be left out... And only have one close friend with him... Just one... that is if he can have other people's trust... I don't care...
There in ASiS... Only one person I can trust...
Here in UTP... Sadly... Trying to believe to trusting someone... And I was almost there already... Almost to have someone who I can talk to... Someone who I donno... And suddenly was able to become friends... And then was able to share stuffs with her... But somehow... After a small incident just now... I don't know do I still have trust for that particular person or not... Sorry... I don't know what to say... Almost led to a really bad misunderstanding... It's just that some words are too powerful that can really make someone trust you...
A lot of people would agree with me...
I know I dont have the rights to say anything about the word trust.. But some way or another I'm trying hard to gain trust from a lot of people... I want them to trust me... And that is why... I'm here writing this out... I know the feeling already... if now, suddenly... You already have trust for that person... But in the end it's not being kept...
Till the next time... I'm your forever young and lovely... Star of Stars.. Calvin Yong... Enjoy what you have now.. Cause you'll never know what are you dealing with the next day.. Appreciate your friends that you have.. And definitely forever keep in mind to not betray a friend.. That is if it's for his or her own good..Bye bye~~~~~
p/s: Remon... I finally blurted out this thing since forever... Let's go out and celebrate...
One simple post for today... Something I might be or might not go through... But one thing for sure... The Staralways think for others.. Do not pressure yourself.. I know I am in no place of advicing people now coz I myself is in deep shit now... haihzz... Sorry everyone.. But still The Star would want all of you to live a happy life....
Warmest regards to all of you...
With lots of love...
The Star Of Stars...
Calvin Yong...
Smile always..
Nervous Breakdown is termed as a severe or unbearable emotional disorder, that occurs very suddenly and the symptoms are depression. It is basically a mental illness when a person cannot think properly. This happens when a person undergoes a very stressful phase in his life.
Causes of mental breakdown
There are a number of causes of mental breakdown which includes chronic and unresolved grief, unemployment, academic problems, career failure, stress due to some reason such as post war trauma, a serious or chronic illness in the family, death in the family, fraud by a loved one, pregnancy etc. Mental illness is classified as breakdowns due to clinical depression, anxiety, bipolar, disorder, psychosis, dissociation, post traumatic stress, severe stress.
Anxiety disorder
Anxiety disorder includes several forms of abnormal, pathological anxiety, fears, phobias and certain nervous conditions that may be suddenly or gradually effect a person over a period of several years and which may prevent the person from leading a normal life and perform his daily routines.
Anxiety is actually a very unpleasant emotion state of one's mind accompanied with physiological symptoms that leads to fatigue and tiredness. A correct and exact diagnosis will result in an effective treatment and better results. The anxiety disorders are chronic conditions that might be present earlier or might occur suddenly after a serious event in the person's life. That aggravates when the person undergoes stress due to some reason.
A good diagnosis is essential for the initial cure of anxiety disorder. This has to be done by an interview along with possible medical conditions that cause the symptoms of anxiety. Anxiety may be a due to hereditary in some. A person suffering from anxiety disorder normally at times has severe attacks such as headache, sweating and the palpitations increase which is accompanied- with hypertension.
Conditions of the person suffering from Anxiety disorder
Anxiety disorder is a common and a chronic disorder that affects men as well as women. Anxiety disorder is a long lasting problem. There is no specific reason for anxiety disorder or situation.
People suffering from this disorder fear for some unknown reason. They have a very difficult time in controlling their worries. Due to constant muscle tension and constant fear they might develop headaches, palpations in the heart, sleeping problems and dizziness. Due to the presence of these conditions in an anxiety disorder person, he/she has difficulty in coping with his day to day, normal activities.
Sometimes when the sun rises, Everything seems to be fine, Pretty birds flying and singing, Children playing in the playgrounds, But, What am I doing here, Here looking into a blank blank space, Even when the sun is directly above me, I'm still lying on my bed, Hahaha.. And listening to Kitaro, Hoping to find the will to start the day in a happy mood...
You people might think that I'm in somekind of deep deep trouble... But, I'm not... I look up at the ceiling... Spider webs everywhere... Huhuhu... Not that I dont want to clean it up... It's just that I'm kinda lazy to clean those stuffs... Sorry to my roommate... His place all clean with just minor spots at his place... Mine all a mess... Hahaha... That's me... sorry... The Star might not bother about those stuffs when something else is not right.... Sorry again...
Took a really really cold bath... Shivering when I got out... Now back to where I started.. Figuring what might be wrong with me... Still thinking what are the solutions of me going back to my old self... Now listening to MJ's songs.. hahaha... got nothing better to do now.. I have tests coming up next week... But I still have no idea on what to study at the moment... Really hope someone would be kind enough to help me in my test by then.. Hehehe... If you know what I mean... I think I'll stop for now... Hope that the feeling will pass on..
10 is gone... but no worries, 11 just dropped by and will be accompanying us for the next 30 days minus the 3 days before...
This is the 6th week of my 2nd semester... It's the 6th week but still I'm still relaxing... without any studying... I'm doomed.... lolz... please help me, JUST SOMEHOW!! ANYONE!! TALK ME INTO STUDYING NOW!!!!! If I continue without studying at all.. my JPA scholar is going to just fly away from me... By then I'll be singing FLY AWAY!!! huhuhuhu....
What's New?? Same like always... enlarging the beam of light to shine wider to more people here in UTP.. huhuhu... More friends.. More conflicts... And many many more... haihzz... I have no idea what to write now.. Sorry little stars..
